February: Side N*gga Situation
I been having the same “side-nigga” for about 7 years and now that I’m single (2 years now) he want to argue about what I do with other men but he still doesn’t want to be exclusive with me (since that’s how he became a side nigga in the first place) do I leave my side piece alone so I can play the field and be single in peace or do I try and see if we can take things to the next level now?
Step into my office. First I’d like to congratulate you and your side nigga for making it this long – 7 years is long af. I’m curious what was missing in your relationship that the side nigga provided. Nevertheless, play the field. If he’s been a side nigga for 7 years he’ll continue to do so. His concerns about your commitment are valid; recognize that. It seems crazy (and it kinda is) to argue with a guy you’re not with exclusively, but I think after 7 years the dude should be able to express how he feels about you and receive validation. After 7 years can you really leave him alone? If he says he doesn’t wanna be exclusive, he means it. Don’t think it’s a joke. Don’t think if you keep sending him selfies it’ll change his mind. He doesn’t trust you – and rightfully so. Only you can decide if taking the time to establish that trust will be worth it (i.e., result in a relationship). Until then, play the field. Figure out what you want. Figure out what you need.
Peace, Love & Lil Wayne,
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